For just a card, or just a letter …

Last night, my husband came in from work with mail he’d found in the mailbox. As he walked upstairs to change out of his work clothes, he called out to our oldest daughter (16 years old), “There’s a letter for you in the mail today.”

She lit UP when she heard that. “A letter? For me? Where? From who?”

Is there anything more exciting than receiving a letter from someone in the mail? Well, of course there is – lots of things are more exciting than that, but as an experience – holding tangible proof that someone, somewhere thought about you and invested time in you without you being there to remind them to notice you and without asking to be thought about, THAT’S pretty cool. It was almost as fun to watch as it is to have actually happen to you.

She grabbed the letter with excitement and wondered out loud, “who is this from?” I do that too, at least – I remember I would do that too ~ hold the letter in delighted anticipation of what could possibly be contained inside. My daughter’s approach and my own diverged at that point; where I would linger in that delighted anticipation and then gingerly open the envelope for fear of damaging something inside – she RIPPED into it with wild abandon to get to the contents.

 

 

It was a loving note from her ‘second family’: her best friend, her best friend’s Mom and her best friend’s sisters. You see, my oldest missed several days of school recently – felled by a series of infections (ear, eyes, sinus) and a cold. This is not like her – not only does she seldom ever miss school, but she seldom ever is sick. On the afternoon of her fourth day home, a van pulled into the driveway and the doorbell then rang. It was my daughter’s best friend – she’d been worried at my daughter’s absence and asked her mother to PLEASE drive to our house and see if everything was okay. I have no doubt that this loving act had as much to do with my daughter’s ultimate recovery as the antibiotics at work in her system. And once learning about the issue at hand, they clearly bought a Get Well Card, had the family sign it, each with a specific and loving message – and put it in the mail to make a very deserving young lady feel super special.

Friendship is magical. To be seen, to be thought about, to be loved, unexpectedly and for no reason other than you are who you are and are appreciated for that and that alone … pure magic. This captured my heart yesterday and reminded me that Beauty is all around, for those able and willing to see it. And it filled my heart with the reminder that letter-writing is a lost art that is in need of a resurgence. I’m going to get on that …

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  1. What a beautiful post (pun intended), Sally. I have stacks of letters saved from years and years ago, and I sometimes feel sad that my kids won’t have that experience of receiving long, handwritten letters.

    I am sitting with this beautiful line.

    “To be seen, to be thought about, to be loved, unexpectedly and for no reason other than you are who you are and are appreciated for that and that alone … pure magic.”

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    My heart was completely in that beautiful line, Kim. We are all so deserving of that Magic … I wish more of us experienced it more often …

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  2. wearmanyhats

    Enjoy that, Sally. Oldest got a letter in the mail three times this week, all from colleges. He doesn’t even open them. But I remember getting letters and weekly readers, too. That was sooooo great.

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    I feel so lucky to be able to experience Joy through others ~ it certainly increases the opportunities to feel Joy in my life. College letters already? Wow. Time flies. We’ll be there this time next year I guess. Oh boy …

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  3. Peabea

    I’ve always loved getting mail. When young always had pen pals, etc. Card showers are always so much fun. I always still send mail, and you are so right, the anticipation of what’s inside that someone thought enough to send is still exciting to me…however, people rarely send mail anymore. Some in my family say the cost of a stamp is too much. It is soon to go to 50 cents for a stamp, but I still think that’s a bargain. Since I’m recently into scrap booking, I have so much fun making my own and thinking about how I want to personalize it for the person so it really is just as fun for me to send as to receive.

    Thanks for the snail mail reminder and glad the daughter is feeling so much better.

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    Thanks Peabea. Modern medicine is amazing when bacterial infection hits. We had been to the Walk-In clinic on Friday and were told that she just had a cold. I then went away from Saturday to Tuesday ~ and was so upset to see how sick she’d become in the interim. We course corrected quickly though – and her friend’s visit and subsequent Get Well Card was such a beautiful end to the whole ‘adventure’.

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  4. Brenda Muir

    LOVE this,…what a sweet way of capturing all the love and tenderness shared between all of you. I have since I can remember referred to letters and cards received via snail mail as “fan mail”. I think it is amazing how much love can be stuffed into an otherwise very small envelope. I also agree that it has become a lost art,…which is crazy given the fact that not only does it make the day and perhaps beyond for the receiver, but can spread love to any others who may witness the beauty of it. Thanks for spreading your love and that of your daughter and her best friend, Sally. I think I will sit down and write a long letter. xx

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    Thank you Brenda – and thank you also for popping in here. You captured such Magic in noting how the wonder goes beyond the receiver, but to all witnesses to the reaction. It completely reflects this quote that I’ve been thinking about today:

    “Others see their possibility in the reality of you. Be, therefore, a model to all the world. Be the hope of humanity.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch, Tomorrow’s God

    And my reaction to the event, and my reflections on it, ALSO have me feeling driven to write a letter …

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  5. jo miller

    You so get this world, Sally G. You do.
    I love your style of writing, filled with the nuances of moments that matter.
    And you are the Jedi of finding just the right song!
    Love jo

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    Oh my gosh – you have NO IDEA how happy you just made me. I love the idea of being a Jedi of Finding Just the Right Song! That’s actually a title I can fully step into with pride and confidence. Thank you!!

    I live for the nuances of moments that matter ~ it’s what fuels Hope within me, and the Faith that everything works out for the best if you actively seek to make it so.

    I love you back …

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